Here’s our take on the latest Words To Shoot By challenge – Double
Here’s our take on the latest Words To Shoot By challenge – Double
Monday Morning 3.26.12
It’s another sunny day in Portland. I think it’s so funny how I never talked about the weather when we lived in the Midwest. So what if it was sunny … it’s most likely going to be sunny the next day. But here, in the Pacific Northwest, these days are few and far between this time of year, so I’m really enjoying it. Over the weekend, we shot our very first wedding in Portland. We’ve known about it for about a year, so it felt so amazing to spend the day with a couple who means so much to us. We blogged a couple of our favorite photos over on our photography blog.
Nikon D700 // 28-75mm f2.8 // Processed with VSCO film.
This post is going to be a bit of a downer … but I promise the next will be much happier.
Generally speaking, Jimmy & I are happy. It’s funny when people ask if we love living in Portland. The easy answer is, “Yes!” … here’s the more complicated answer:
Last year, around this time, we put a For Sale sign in our front yard. We traded a summer with family & friends to focus on the house to prep it for several open houses and showings. We sold almost everything we owned (some things that meant a lot) to follow this dream. We moved in with my mom after our house sold, because we lost so much money on the sale, we needed time to recover. Then, in November, we finally made it to Portland.
Once we moved, all of our energy went into figuring out our financial situation (an on-going conversation), learning a new city, focusing on our marriage, and trying to stay balanced.
There are so many days that I just don’t feel like talking to anyone, or getting out of bed. There are times when I know we have to watch our spending because a client is late with a payment. There are times when I wonder why we ever pulled up our roots to move away from our families. There are times when I’m so riddled with guilt for not spending enough time with friends. There are days when I think people are just being bullies … and there are days when it’s been raining for 5 straight days, and I just pray for a little sunshine to lighten my mood.
I suffer from extreme anxiety at times. It’s easy to laugh it off when talking to people about it, but it’s a serious issue. If my phone rings in the middle of the day, and I’m not expecting a call, it takes everything I have to pick it up (most of the time, I don’t). I’m a social person, it’s just hard when things don’t go as planned. Call it controlling or whatever, but it’s almost crippling at times to deal with. On those days, I wish we were still in Indiana … when being so social wasn’t as big of an issue.
Living away from everything we know can be extremely isolating and a little bit scary. Sure, it’s a really good excuse to meet new people & have new experiences, but the sadness about not having our parents around is still there.
We do have friends here. Amazing friends. This is where the balance is hardest: Jimmy works 4-5 days a week. So, that leaves me with 3 days to enjoy my time with him. When he’s working, I’m working at home … we try to be as efficient as possible with the time we spend apart that way we can really relax and have fun when we’re together. So, when I have 3 days a week to enjoy my time off, my first priority is my husband. Plain and simple. He means the most to me, so it’s a pretty easy choice to make.
Someone close to us recently suggested that we’re putting up a front of happiness. Whether it’s on our blog or social media in general, I assure you it’s not a front. We are happy. When we go to explore what Oregon has to offer, we are ecstatic. I still get giddy every time we can see Mt. Hood from our neighborhood, and I absolutely love that our jobs give us the flexibility to enjoy these things. So, we are happy. It’s just that we both made a conscious decision a long time ago that we wouldn’t burden our friends & family with the things that really get to us … the things that humble us, and the things that really bring us down at times. Sure, people might say that’s what friends are for, but really, I think that’s what a solid marriage is for.
I want to have fun with friends & family … not worry about the everyday stresses that haunt all of us. So, if you’ve been reading our blog and think things seem too good, I assure you that this is just a peek into our lives. These are the good moments we choose to share. These are the moments that make us so happy in the path we’ve chosen. It is a very delicate balance between feeling totally insecure with the life you live, and feeling confident that the choices you’re making will end up being the right ones. Right now, we’re in that gray area between the two … hoping that one day, it will all be worth any heartache we have right now.
Last week, when my character was questioned, it hurt. It hurt more than most things have hurt. As an adult, I like to think I’ve turned out okay. In life, we are only given a certain amount of people to love & know. We are lucky in that we get the chance to know anyone at all … so even with the flaws I have, I would hope the good outweighs the bad. It’s about accepting people for who they are … if the good parts are better than the not-so-good parts, then things should work out. When friendship becomes a structure built on resentment & self-consciousness, it’s destined to wither. It’s a hard place to be … questioning who you are, just to be certain the people you care about still accept you for who you are.
Like I said, this post is a total downer. It’s just something that weighed very heavily on my heart over the weekend … Anyone who knows me knows I love to sleep … like 10-12 hours. So, when I couldn’t sleep at all this weekend, I figured I needed to get this weight off of my shoulders & move on. If you read it this far, you deserve a pat on the back. And, on to happier things in 3 … 2 … 1 …
Last night we met two new friends in person … Danny & Alex are visiting Portland (from Boston) for a few days, and we were lucky enough to get an evening with them. After dinner, we headed out to a little bar for a nightcap.
While we were standing in the dark bar, Alex brought out her big ol’ Mamiya camera & snapped this photo of us. I love it so much … Thank you for giving us this little gift that we’ll treasure forever.
The bonus of all of this: They’re moving to Portland next year!
Monday Morning 3.19.12
I’ve got nothing to say. Not for any particular reason … Just not much of an update. We’ll just let the photos take the stage this morning.
Last week it was sunny. It was in the 60’s. It was beautiful. We used all three of those excuses to spend an entire day walking around our great city: Portland, Oregon.
We realized something recently: Our family & friends who aren’t in Portland probably think we live in the movie, Twilight. I mean with adventures like this, and this, and then there’s this one, I can see why you might think that! But, we are here to tell you, we definitely live in a city … It just happens to be really close to all of those Twilight-esque places.
So when it was super warm & super sunny, we headed out to explore our wonderful city. 6 hours later, we had a little story to share.
We stopped at this awesome store called Cargo. It’s like a showroom & a flea market in one place. They sell antique furniture & awesomely new home goods. I just love this store.
We really only had one objective for the day … Stop at Bro-Dogs for lunch. This food cart (at 6th & Stark) is so so so good. Plus, they have a vegan dog, which makes it the perfect spot.
After lunch, we headed down to the waterfront. See Mt. Hood out there in the distance (look for the white cap in the middle of the photo)? Any day we can see the mountain is a good day.
Portland is known as Bridgetown … We have a ton of bridges that span the Willamette.
We picked a bright spot in the sunshine to sit & watch people. Yes, Portland is an amazing place to people watch!
Shirtless bike guy.
Giant hula-hoop unicycle (not pictured) guy.
Love this shot J made of me … He has an eye for composition that I just love.
On our way back to the apartment, we stopped at Touche for a drink on the patio.
Such an amazing day!
Made with Nikon D700 // 28-75mm f2.8 // Processed with VSCO film.
We’ll chalk this one up to my husband being a wiz in the kitchen. When there’s ‘nothing’ to eat, he somehow comes up with something pretty magical. This soy curl ‘chicken’ salad is right up there!
After a lovely weekend, I woke up this morning feeling pretty sick. At first I was thinking it was allergies, but after eating leftover Mexican for breakfast (sorry mom), I’m realizing it’s probably the onset of a flu or bad cold. This Monday is cold & gray, which is okay, because it’s the perfect excuse to lay on the couch & rest. Just a little note about the photos from this morning: the top one is a beautiful print made by my friend Bettie. I bought it yesterday, and love this lovely little house. You can see more of her prints in her shop. While I typically like to adventure around the apartment a little more for these photos, today I took them all from my desk … A little peek into our world!
Made with Nikon D700 // 50mm f1.4 & 70-200mm f2.8 // Processed with VSCO film.
I finished my first knitting project this week! After washing & blocking, I was finally able to wear it out and about on Wednesday.
I wasn’t sure exactly how long it would be, but I am so happy it’s long enough to loop around itself (and not feel like it’s strangling me).
Jimmy finished another hat this week … this one is hole-less! A perfect beenie if I do say so. Can’t wait to share more of the little knitting projects we have going on. It’s kind of ridiculous how fun/relaxing/addictive all of this is!
If you’ve been around here for awhile, you already know I prefer savory over sweet. So, when choosing my ideal breakfast, I’ll often skip the pancakes & muffins and head towards something more like this: scottish oat cakes, eggs & roasted tomatoes.
The oat cakes a slightly dry, so serving them with perfectly cooked fried eggs & juicy tomatoes rounds out the meal perfectly.
For the oat cakes:
Adapted from This Paper Ship